Betrayal is not an easy thing to deal with. The anger, disappointment and sadness can not just disappear. But what if the betrayal that happens when you are married?
Of course you always have a choice, whether to forgive a spouse, or even sever a marriage relationship that has been built.
After the betrayal, there are several phases that you will pass. Phase which will determine the direction of your relationship.
The stationary phase
The anger and disappointment will make your partner silence. ignore it is one way of showing anger. It is a natural thing. You did not have to force yourself to interact if the mental and heart is not ready.
Say firmly on the couple to not disturb you in advance. Tell him that you need time to calm down after the shocks that have been experienced.
Phase think
When stationary, that's your time to think. What has been happening in your household, what the drawbacks, and what is the reason for the betrayal.
Consider also how your life with or without a partner. Find out how deeply the love that you feel now after being betrayed.
Phase Listening
Once you feel quite aloof and introspective, it's time to listen to reason couples. Any bad actions, he still has the right to voice an opinion or just apologize and admit mistakes.
It can also make you and your partner communicate at length about what happened in the household.
Phase compromise
Whatever the decision, it must pass a compromise you and your partner. Is the relationship worth forwarded or even resolved, just the two of you know. If the communication is still difficult to build, it could not hurt to ask for help a third party.
Meet a professional wedding consultant will help you. Asking families to mediate is not too wise idea. One act, your relationship will change the way two warring camps (between your family and your partner). If you really want to ask family mediation, make sure that person can be neutral.
Of course you always have a choice, whether to forgive a spouse, or even sever a marriage relationship that has been built.
After the betrayal, there are several phases that you will pass. Phase which will determine the direction of your relationship.
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The stationary phase
The anger and disappointment will make your partner silence. ignore it is one way of showing anger. It is a natural thing. You did not have to force yourself to interact if the mental and heart is not ready.
Say firmly on the couple to not disturb you in advance. Tell him that you need time to calm down after the shocks that have been experienced.
Phase think
When stationary, that's your time to think. What has been happening in your household, what the drawbacks, and what is the reason for the betrayal.
Consider also how your life with or without a partner. Find out how deeply the love that you feel now after being betrayed.
Phase Listening
Once you feel quite aloof and introspective, it's time to listen to reason couples. Any bad actions, he still has the right to voice an opinion or just apologize and admit mistakes.
It can also make you and your partner communicate at length about what happened in the household.
Phase compromise
Whatever the decision, it must pass a compromise you and your partner. Is the relationship worth forwarded or even resolved, just the two of you know. If the communication is still difficult to build, it could not hurt to ask for help a third party.
Meet a professional wedding consultant will help you. Asking families to mediate is not too wise idea. One act, your relationship will change the way two warring camps (between your family and your partner). If you really want to ask family mediation, make sure that person can be neutral.